Capturing the Connection: How to Make Magic with a Couples Boudoir Session

Boudoir can be beautifully empowering… for individuals, and couples too.

Couples boudoir sessions are growing in popularity. And why shouldn’t they? Boudoir is about having fun, being sexy, and feeling powerful which are all markers of a fabulous relationship. If you and your sweetheart have tossed around the idea of doing a sexy photo shoot together, there is no better time than now.

One of the best parts of couple’s boudoir is that clients get to share a new level of vulnerability – and do it together. A brave hurdle that many clients have to jump over for their boudoir session is feeling nervous, but when you and your partner are cheering each other on, making each other laugh, and supporting one another in bringing out your sensual side, you create a recipe for photo magic.

Here are some expert tips on how to make your couples boudoir session a day you’ll never forget, with photos you get to keep as a sweet memento:

1. Keep it Simple
Couples boudoir sessions focus on the relationship and connection between the two of you, so don’t stress out about too many details. Often, one (or sometimes both!) of you may feel a little lost about how to dress or what to bring. Start with solid colors and classic clothing items like black cotton underwear, crisp white button-up shirts, and neutral tees or tank tops.

2.Have a Sense of Humor
Some of the best couples boudoir photos are when the couple is laughing together. If being in front of the camera isn’t something you do regularly, it can take a bit of time to loosen up. Nothing makes someone’s face and body relax quite like laughter. Get close to your partner and whisper an inside joke in their ear or blow a raspberry on their neck. When the laughter dies down, wrap your arms around them and follow the photographer’s directive for some more intimate-looking shots.

3. Discuss Boundaries Beforehand
There are probably some things you and/or your partner won’t want to do in front of a photographer. Photographers also each have rules about what they will photograph. The best course of action is to sit down with your partner first and clearly communicate what you’d like to see in the final photos, and what is off-limits. Then, let the photographer know via email and ask them what their boundaries are so that everyone is on the same page. Also, discussing hang-ups and insecurities is important with any boudoir session; be sure to tell your photographer and your partner what parts of your body you love and which ones you struggle to love (and allow your partner to do the same).

4. Have Reasonable Expectations
Neither of you are supermodels? That’s okay! You don’t have to be some impossible version of perfect. Couples boudoir is not so much about sex or a certain standard of beauty, but about celebrating the relationship. Committing to being there for each other, having fun, and enjoying the experience is what it’s all about.

5. Make it Personal
Do you and your partner have something special between the two of you that you’d like to have as part of your boudoir session? Just like individual boudoir sessions where the photos are intended to be a gift for someone, couples boudoir can be tailored to what makes your relationship unique. Do you love painting together? Bring your paints and paintbrushes to your session. Have a favorite sports team? Pack your matching jerseys. Have a special food or drink that means a lot to you? Sharing a bottle of wine you’ve been saving or feeding each other the same kind of cupcake you got on your first date can make your boudoir photos one-of-a-kind.

6. Plan a Low-Key Night Afterward
Boudoir photo sessions can be powerful stuff. With couples boudoir sessions, the connection between the couple can be amplified which makes the experience and the photos AMAZING. But, you may also realize that afterward, you’re tired… or maybe you’re not and want to have some alone time! Either way, having plans afterward where you can talk about the experience together, enjoy one another’s company, and relax is a great idea. Maybe leave a loud concert or dinner with friends for another date night.