You Don’t Have to Change to Be Worthy of Boudoir
You Don’t Have to Change to Be Worthy of Boudoir
So many would-be clients come to me saying “I wish I could do a boudoir session.”
My answer is always the same – YOU CAN!
Sadly, I often hear them say that it isn’t the cost, the time or the fear of the experience itself that is holding them back, but that they believe they need to change themselves in some way before they can or deserve to have their own boudoir session.
Let me be very clear: you do not need to change your body to do a boudoir session.
No, really.
As a woman and a survivor of sexual trauma (which has driven me so fiercely to become a boudoir photographer and help other women heal the parts of them that have been shamed or silenced), I've been forced through the recovery process to confront the fears that make me want to hide.
Once I started seeing what would happen if I stopped trying to change myself and stopped trying to hide as much, I felt more free and more powerful. I started living life in a different way. And once I started doing that, I started noticing how many women around me were not living freely, because they too were afraid to celebrate their authentic selves.
We don’t realize how much we apologize for everything- things that aren’t even bad. I would even say they’re not “imperfect,” because there is no such thing as perfect. I have worked with both professional models and everyday women of all ages, body types and sizes, and we all think something is wrong with us, or that happiness and confidence is just around the corner if we just change one more thing.
What I know is this: what we think we need to change in order to be happy, will never be enough.
And if we do get what we think we want – if we do lose 10 pounds or get that cosmetic procedure or whatever it is – we will think that that is the only thing that makes us beautiful. We will constantly fear losing it. In some cases, women even go to extremes to hold onto it, to the point it consumes their lives.
Boudoir is not about immortalizing how “perfect” you are.
It’s about feeling empowered. And clients do that by making their session an environment where for once, they not apologizing for who they are.
It’s not a big mystery why we are taught to apologize for ourselves or constantly try to change ourselves.
It sells stuff! It makes us easy to control! It steals our power (and we are POWERFUL)!
We cannot be empowered if we are constantly apologizing for existing or believing we are not enough.
We cannot feel at home in our bodies if we believe they are bad.
And we can’t be free if we rob ourselves of experiences we want to have.
The great thing about boudoir, is that you don’t go through it alone. I am there with you, every step of the way. Let’s celebrate you, together.
